Comments on: The “Marrying Type”… but not the good kind… http://blog.heartless-bitches.com/wordpress/index.php/archives/35 HeartlessBitches.com - The View from the Editor's Chair... Mon, 12 Jul 2010 17:01:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Amber http://blog.heartless-bitches.com/wordpress/index.php/archives/35/comment-page-1#comment-788 Amber Sun, 25 Mar 2007 21:48:42 +0000 http://www.heartless-bitches.com/blog/index.php/archives/35#comment-788 That's not the worst of that type of guy - at least she actually met him face to face before he started going on about "destiny." It's really scary when a guy you've just starting instant messaging begins talking like that! That’s not the worst of that type of guy – at least she actually met him face to face before he started going on about “destiny.” It’s really scary when a guy you’ve just starting instant messaging begins talking like that!

]]> By: Kimberly http://blog.heartless-bitches.com/wordpress/index.php/archives/35/comment-page-1#comment-580 Kimberly Fri, 16 Mar 2007 13:48:28 +0000 http://www.heartless-bitches.com/blog/index.php/archives/35#comment-580 Oh, I definitely feel this one!! A friend of mine actually married one of these guys and she is MISERABLE. I must admit that both of them are "clingers" and HE has admitted this to my face, but also threw her into that as well. She didn't argue though. When are people going to realize that "clinging" to others isn't the answer to a happy, loving and healthy relationship? I'm tired of hearing the on-going complaints from people who not only refuse to look in the mirror at their own behavior/shortcomings that attract these types of people but also continually blame the other person for all the relationship issues. Yes, people bring baggage from their past to current situations BUT it is how you handle that baggage and take responsibility for that baggage that counts. In this day and age, it is difficult to find someone over 30 who hasn't been married, hasn't had their heart smashed into a million pieces, hasn't had a child, etc. Without making this into a novella, I will get to my point now. If I meet someone who has 2 kids and is a decent, responsible, healthy and happy human being, I will choose him over someone who doesn't have kids and is a clinger. Speaking from my own experiences with dating/relationships, you have to have a solid relationship with yourself in order to weed out the assholes/deceivers. Men and women need to wake up to these RED flags BEFORE handing over their time, energy, heart, money. Concerned and sympathic, Kimberly Loyal, fellow HB sista :o) Oh, I definitely feel this one!! A friend of mine actually married one of these guys and she is MISERABLE. I must admit that both of them are “clingers” and HE has admitted this to my face, but also threw her into that as well. She didn’t argue though. When are people going to realize that “clinging” to others isn’t the answer to a happy, loving and healthy relationship? I’m tired of hearing the on-going complaints from people who not only refuse to look in the mirror at their own behavior/shortcomings that attract these types of people but also continually blame the other person for all the relationship issues. Yes, people bring baggage from their past to current situations BUT it is how you handle that baggage and take responsibility for that baggage that counts. In this day and age, it is difficult to find someone over 30 who hasn’t been married, hasn’t had their heart smashed into a million pieces, hasn’t had a child, etc. Without making this into a novella, I will get to my point now. If I meet someone who has 2 kids and is a decent, responsible, healthy and happy human being, I will choose him over someone who doesn’t have kids and is a clinger. Speaking from my own experiences with dating/relationships, you have to have a solid relationship with yourself in order to weed out the assholes/deceivers. Men and women need to wake up to these RED flags BEFORE handing over their time, energy, heart, money.

Concerned and sympathic,
Kimberly
Loyal, fellow HB sista :o)

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