Comments on: One-Note Whinging Not-So-Nice Guys http://blog.heartless-bitches.com/wordpress/index.php/archives/76 HeartlessBitches.com - The View from the Editor's Chair... Mon, 12 Jul 2010 17:01:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Kimberly http://blog.heartless-bitches.com/wordpress/index.php/archives/76/comment-page-1#comment-6483 Kimberly Mon, 17 Sep 2007 14:49:01 +0000 http://www.heartless-bitches.com/blog/index.php/archives/76#comment-6483 Bravo Natalie! You nailed it, as always. I believe this on-going battle between the sexes is really just a lack of communication of needs/desires/ expectations of self and partner. Just recently, I had to say no to a potential dating relationship because of what I felt to be disrespectful, poor behavior from him. Although this person did apologize for "forgetting about a date" that HE initiated, it made me realize that there are males out there who still don't get that we females aren't going to be doormats and enable them to be "forgetful" or allow them to give an "insincere" apology. And I know there are women who behave like this as well but since I don't date women, I must focus on behavior coming from males in the dating arena. I don't know him well enough to know for sure if he is/isn't being sincere with his apology BUT I do know he has a pattern of "forgetful" behavior as he has done this to my friends (who introduced me to him) as well. Hmmmm. I'm just glad that I don't take it personally anymore and can say no to males who behave like this and WALK AWAY PATTING MYSELF ON THE BACK. Ten years ago, I would have easily forgiven and probably would have set myself up for on-going frustration but not anymore. Glad I now recognize the flags from so-called "nice guys". Bravo Natalie! You nailed it, as always. I believe this on-going battle between the sexes is really just a lack of communication of needs/desires/ expectations of self and partner. Just recently, I had to say no to a potential dating relationship because of what I felt to be disrespectful, poor behavior from him. Although this person did apologize for “forgetting about a date” that HE initiated, it made me realize that there are males out there who still don’t get that we females aren’t going to be doormats and enable them to be “forgetful” or allow them to give an “insincere” apology. And I know there are women who behave like this as well but since I don’t date women, I must focus on behavior coming from males in the dating arena. I don’t know him well enough to know for sure if he is/isn’t being sincere with his apology BUT I do know he has a pattern of “forgetful” behavior as he has done this to my friends (who introduced me to him) as well. Hmmmm. I’m just glad that I don’t take it personally anymore and can say no to males who behave like this and WALK AWAY PATTING MYSELF ON THE BACK. Ten years ago, I would have easily forgiven and probably would have set myself up for on-going frustration but not anymore. Glad I now recognize the flags from so-called “nice guys”.

]]> By: Nadia http://blog.heartless-bitches.com/wordpress/index.php/archives/76/comment-page-1#comment-6476 Nadia Mon, 17 Sep 2007 06:40:22 +0000 http://www.heartless-bitches.com/blog/index.php/archives/76#comment-6476 I thought your original post was quite clear about which segment of the male population you were discussing. tmartin's comment just says to me that he assumes that everything is about him and that us horrible stupid bitches are out there poisoning other women's minds against him and that's why he can't get laid. By the way, did you read that article in the NY times about two weeks ago in which a man who decides to work from home talks about how difficult it is to get anything done when you have a house and kids to take care of? The poor little soul can't understand how he's supposed to get any real work done when there are constant demands on his time being made by the kids, the house, the repairman, telemarketers, etc. I wonder if he thought the elves had been doing it all this time. I thought your original post was quite clear about which segment of the male population you were discussing. tmartin’s comment just says to me that he assumes that everything is about him and that us horrible stupid bitches are out there poisoning other women’s minds against him and that’s why he can’t get laid.

By the way, did you read that article in the NY times about two weeks ago in which a man who decides to work from home talks about how difficult it is to get anything done when you have a house and kids to take care of? The poor little soul can’t understand how he’s supposed to get any real work done when there are constant demands on his time being made by the kids, the house, the repairman, telemarketers, etc. I wonder if he thought the elves had been doing it all this time.

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